Comments for HowIsYourLoveLife.com http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog Relationships, dating, and life from a non-traditional and at times metaphysical perspective. Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:09:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by Pure and proud of it http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-875 Pure and proud of it Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:09:46 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-875 You've taken the linked article out of context, its primary concern is with teens who are taking the pledge and not sticking to it. Purity rings are a PERSONAL CHOICE. So either the teens are just stupid or their parents are enforcing it. The problem is when people wear the rings without deeply understanding what it means. Sure, you can wear the ring and wait until marriage and then rip your wedding dress off and jump your husband's bones, but unless in that time you are fostering a real relationship that is built on respect, trust, patience and steadfastness, with a mind that is also free from impure thoughts, that pledge was worthless. Purity is neither act nor inaction, but a lifestyle. Sex is foundational to a marriage, yes, but only when both partners understand each other and what essential need they are fulfilling in it. But that kind of knowledge only comes from outside the physical interaction--how is your communication? do you respect each others' wishes and needs? can you trust this person with your life? do you connect on a spiritual level? These are the other foundations. It's easy to ignore these things and bank everything on the physical connection ("As long as the sex is still good we're okay, right?"), but that's only a manifestation of the love you share. Think about it, you wouldn't like to be kissed or caressed by a complete stranger. It's only because you share a bond that the physical intimacy is meaningful and nurturing to your being. A purity pledge is therefore on a deeper level a commitment that you're going to tend to the real needs of the relationship and not take the easy way out. If you want to know more about the importance of purity and godly relationships, I recommend looking up Danny Silk. You’ve taken the linked article out of context, its primary concern is with teens who are taking the pledge and not sticking to it. Purity rings are a PERSONAL CHOICE. So either the teens are just stupid or their parents are enforcing it. The problem is when people wear the rings without deeply understanding what it means. Sure, you can wear the ring and wait until marriage and then rip your wedding dress off and jump your husband’s bones, but unless in that time you are fostering a real relationship that is built on respect, trust, patience and steadfastness, with a mind that is also free from impure thoughts, that pledge was worthless. Purity is neither act nor inaction, but a lifestyle.
Sex is foundational to a marriage, yes, but only when both partners understand each other and what essential need they are fulfilling in it. But that kind of knowledge only comes from outside the physical interaction–how is your communication? do you respect each others’ wishes and needs? can you trust this person with your life? do you connect on a spiritual level? These are the other foundations. It’s easy to ignore these things and bank everything on the physical connection (“As long as the sex is still good we’re okay, right?”), but that’s only a manifestation of the love you share. Think about it, you wouldn’t like to be kissed or caressed by a complete stranger. It’s only because you share a bond that the physical intimacy is meaningful and nurturing to your being.
A purity pledge is therefore on a deeper level a commitment that you’re going to tend to the real needs of the relationship and not take the easy way out.
If you want to know more about the importance of purity and godly relationships, I recommend looking up Danny Silk.

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by To Yepper http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-874 To Yepper Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:17:48 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-874 Everyone has a religion, a religion is something you believe, you either believe in God (Christianity), or "Allah" (Muslims), or believe you have always existed and you make your own laws (humanists), or that we evolved from monkeys (evolution,) or etc. The only religion that has any morals is Christianity, think about it. :) Humanists believe that the way you feel at the moment determines how you should act, (I make my own laws, I am my own God,) and yet somehow murderers are prosecuted.. what? They felt like it at the moment. Evolution believes nature makes the laws, when nature has never spoken to us, and so apparently the laws of nature are "ingrained in us," leaving the result the same as humanist "morality". Muslims believe that everything must be obeyed according to "Allah" who says it's fine to steal and murder. And etc. :D Everyone has a religion, a religion is something you believe, you either believe in God (Christianity), or “Allah” (Muslims), or believe you have always existed and you make your own laws (humanists), or that we evolved from monkeys (evolution,) or etc.

The only religion that has any morals is Christianity, think about it. :) Humanists believe that the way you feel at the moment determines how you should act, (I make my own laws, I am my own God,) and yet somehow murderers are prosecuted.. what? They felt like it at the moment.

Evolution believes nature makes the laws, when nature has never spoken to us, and so apparently the laws of nature are “ingrained in us,” leaving the result the same as humanist “morality”.

Muslims believe that everything must be obeyed according to “Allah” who says it’s fine to steal and murder.

And etc. :D

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by Yeppers http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-873 Yeppers Sat, 24 Mar 2012 03:26:45 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-873 Great article. Religion is like a mind virus- always trying to make people think a in certain way; often a way that's harmful. Great article. Religion is like a mind virus- always trying to make people think a in certain way; often a way that’s harmful.

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by EXCUSE ME! http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-871 EXCUSE ME! Tue, 21 Feb 2012 19:54:10 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-871 to DOLLY: If you believe in God it should ABSOLUTELY determine how you act and define you're choices. If you believe in God, then you should know He commands us to obey Him. You can't just cut out which parts you believe suit the way you'd like them to, sorry. God made you, AND you're feelings; and for a reason. to DOLLY:

If you believe in God it should ABSOLUTELY determine how you act and define you’re choices. If you believe in God, then you should know He commands us to obey Him.

You can’t just cut out which parts you believe suit the way you’d like them to, sorry. God made you, AND you’re feelings; and for a reason.

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by Just Me http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-870 Just Me Tue, 21 Feb 2012 19:48:04 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-870 "A widow, or a divorced woman, or a woman who has been defiled, or a prostitute, these he shall not marry. But he shall take as his wife a virgin of his own people," Lev. 21:14 We must be virgins to lawfully marry. Purity rings are merely an outward statement of what the Bible commands us o do anyway. People who give away there purity end up feeling worthless, it's harsh but I know from some of my friends and how they feel now. If you trust God you shouldn't be searching for the person He has chosen for you, you should wait for him/her. Just like God made Eve for Adam He HAS specifically chosen one person for you. This is you're partner, and it will not be easy but God has prohibited divorce unless on terms of adultery. (Mark 10: 2-9) I know several people who kept there purity until they got married, and guess what? They are either still together or were together til' the day they died! “A widow, or a divorced woman, or a woman who has been defiled, or a prostitute, these he shall not marry. But he shall take as his wife a virgin of his own people,” Lev. 21:14

We must be virgins to lawfully marry. Purity rings are merely an outward statement of what the Bible commands us o do anyway.

People who give away there purity end up feeling worthless, it’s harsh but I know from some of my friends and how they feel now. If you trust God you shouldn’t be searching for the person He has chosen for you, you should wait for him/her.

Just like God made Eve for Adam He HAS specifically chosen one person for you. This is you’re partner, and it will not be easy but God has prohibited divorce unless on terms of adultery. (Mark 10: 2-9)

I know several people who kept there purity until they got married, and guess what? They are either still together or were together til’ the day they died!

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by APALLED!!! http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-647 APALLED!!! Wed, 08 Sep 2010 18:51:40 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-647 You have completely taken the glorious, most beautiful gift (besides Christ) that God has given to his children and diminished it to a lustful, selfish act of self pleasure! Sex was designed to draw two people together and make them one. It is disastrous to any relationship without that commitment and also complicates any future relationship that you do choose to commit the rest of your life to. My children will know how to have safe sex because we as men are all sinners and fall short of God's glory, but you better believe that because of God's and my great love for them and our desire for them to have the best life possible, they will be taught and encouraged to remain pure. And if they choose to wear a purity ring to display and remember their commitment to their future spouse and God, it will be because they understand how precious that gift is when used in the right way at the right time. You have completely taken the glorious, most beautiful gift (besides Christ) that God has given to his children and diminished it to a lustful, selfish act of self pleasure! Sex was designed to draw two people together and make them one. It is disastrous to any relationship without that commitment and also complicates any future relationship that you do choose to commit the rest of your life to. My children will know how to have safe sex because we as men are all sinners and fall short of God’s glory, but you better believe that because of God’s and my great love for them and our desire for them to have the best life possible, they will be taught and encouraged to remain pure. And if they choose to wear a purity ring to display and remember their commitment to their future spouse and God, it will be because they understand how precious that gift is when used in the right way at the right time.

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by Dolly http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-646 Dolly Fri, 03 Sep 2010 22:06:17 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-646 This article is excellent! Great points raised in this debate. Have been concerned with some other arguments especially the term "Daddy Rings". Now thats just creepy.I'd be disturbed if my husband got my daughter something called THAT. As for the "try before you buy" i mean maybe badly stated but i get where You are coming from. It is a corner stone in a relationship and helps create a bond. How can You marry without knowing that bond exists. Why should belief in God honestly dictate a human urge? I mean in the end we are all mammals with biological impulses and urges which are completely natural. As for the person who said if You never had sex you would know if its bad, you know. An awkward, demanding or harsh lover is NOT something You want to be stuck with "before God." As if God should even be considered in an act that holds the potential to shape someones personality. I mean its not as if Gods come and give the poor soul some therapy. And if God comes first in the marriage....is that not a kind of cheating? Like internet sex or thinking of someone else during? This article is excellent! Great points raised in this debate. Have been concerned with some other arguments especially the term “Daddy Rings”. Now thats just creepy.I’d be disturbed if my husband got my daughter something called THAT.

As for the “try before you buy” i mean maybe badly stated but i get where You are coming from. It is a corner stone in a relationship and helps create a bond. How can You marry without knowing that bond exists.

Why should belief in God honestly dictate a human urge? I mean in the end we are all mammals with biological impulses and urges which are completely natural.

As for the person who said if You never had sex you would know if its bad, you know. An awkward, demanding or harsh lover is NOT something You want to be stuck with “before God.” As if God should even be considered in an act that holds the potential to shape someones personality. I mean its not as if Gods come and give the poor soul some therapy.

And if God comes first in the marriage….is that not a kind of cheating? Like internet sex or thinking of someone else during?

]]> Comment on 8 Reasons Purity Rings are a Bad Idea by live4christ http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-640 live4christ Tue, 10 Aug 2010 05:13:18 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=121#comment-640 This article disgusts me!! I can't believe you think parents should give their children condoms instead of a purity ring, this ring symbolizes the commitment between them and God, and well if they break their commitment then that's their own buisness but I have a purity ring and I do commit to not have sex until I get married, and I strongly disagree with the statement "don't make this commitment until you're 30'!?!?!? What in the world, I have seen plenty of marriages last when the couple got married in their 20s and they were virgins when they got married. As long as God is first in their marriage then their marriage will make it through anything, and I think that if a couple don't have sex or live together before they're married that helps a marriage. And the statement, "You should have sex before marriage to make sure you like it." I can't believe anyone would say that!? If you love that person, sex shouldn't matter, and plus if you haven't ever had sex, how would you know that it's bad!? This article disgusts me!! I can’t believe you think parents should give their children condoms instead of a purity ring, this ring symbolizes the commitment between them and God, and well if they break their commitment then that’s their own buisness but I have a purity ring and I do commit to not have sex until I get married, and I strongly disagree with the statement “don’t make this commitment until you’re 30′!?!?!? What in the world, I have seen plenty of marriages last when the couple got married in their 20s and they were virgins when they got married. As long as God is first in their marriage then their marriage will make it through anything, and I think that if a couple don’t have sex or live together before they’re married that helps a marriage. And the statement, “You should have sex before marriage to make sure you like it.” I can’t believe anyone would say that!? If you love that person, sex shouldn’t matter, and plus if you haven’t ever had sex, how would you know that it’s bad!?

]]> Comment on There’s more to a person than just their sun sign by UK Horoscopes http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=237&cpage=1#comment-616 UK Horoscopes Fri, 18 Jun 2010 09:37:41 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=237#comment-616 Great post. I learn a lot of information from this post. Discover the personality traits of your partner by exploring your horoscopes—embrace them. Use them to add intense passion to your relationship. Great post.
I learn a lot of information from this post.
Discover the personality traits of your partner by exploring your
horoscopes—embrace them. Use them to add intense passion to your relationship.

]]> Comment on Romantic Square Dancing by Amy Kale http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=262&cpage=1#comment-611 Amy Kale Mon, 07 Jun 2010 00:48:35 +0000 http://howisyourlovelife.com/blog/?p=262#comment-611 Why does she "need" to have a man in her life? Why does she want to get married so badly? Marriage does not equal wholeness or complete fulfillment. Why does she need to have a rock on her hand to solidify a relationship? Goes to show you that a woman as beautiful and successful as Kim still has plenty of insecurities. Why does she “need” to have a man in her life? Why does she want to get married so badly? Marriage does not equal wholeness or complete fulfillment. Why does she need to have a rock on her hand to solidify a relationship? Goes to show you that a woman as beautiful and successful as Kim still has plenty of insecurities.

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